Squirting happens when you stimulate your urethral sponge with the right pressure and angle.
You've tried the basic g-spot advice but still can't make yourself squirt consistently.
Section 01What Happens When You Squirt
When you squirt, fluid comes from your urethral sponge - the tissue surrounding your urethra. This sponge fills with fluid during arousal and releases it through your urethra when you reach a specific type of climax. The fluid itself is mostly water with some glucose and fructose, similar to what the prostate produces in men.
Your urethral sponge sits behind your vaginal wall, roughly 1-3 inches inside your vagina on the front wall. When you press on this area, you're actually stimulating the sponge through your vaginal tissue. The key to making yourself squirt is applying consistent pressure to this area while your arousal builds.
Section 02Mental Preparation Before Physical Technique
The biggest block to squirting is worrying about peeing. Your brain naturally tightens your exercises/" class="contextual-link">pelvic floor when you feel pressure on your urethral sponge because the sensation mimics needing to urinate. You have to consciously override this reflex by relaxing and pushing out slightly when you feel that pressure building.
Empty your bladder 20-30 minutes before you start, then put a towel down anyway. This gives your mind permission to let go completely. Many women hold back right at the moment of potential squirting because they're afraid of making a mess. The towel removes that worry so you can focus purely on sensation.
Section 03Finding Your Urethral Sponge
Your urethral sponge feels different from the rest of your vaginal wall when you're aroused. Slide one or two fingers inside your vagina and curve them toward your belly button. The tissue there will feel slightly ridged or bumpy compared to the smooth walls around it. This texture becomes more pronounced as you get more aroused.
Don't expect to find it immediately if you're not already turned on. Spend 10-15 minutes on other stimulation first - your clit, your breasts, whatever works for you. The urethral sponge swells with arousal, making it easier to locate and more responsive to pressure.
Section 04Pressure Patterns That Work
Once you locate your urethral sponge, use firm, consistent pressure rather than light touches. Press directly into the sponge with your fingertips and hold for 3-5 seconds, then release. Repeat this pattern while gradually increasing the pressure. Light rubbing rarely triggers squirting - you need enough pressure to compress the sponge.
Try different angles by changing your wrist position. Sometimes angling your fingers slightly left or right hits the sweet spot better than straight pressure. Pay attention to which angle makes you feel that 'I need to pee' sensation most strongly - that's your target area.
Section 05Combining Stimulation Types
Most women need stimulation-complete-guide/" class="contextual-link">clitoral stimulation along with urethral sponge pressure to squirt. Use your other hand on your clit or try a vibrator. The combination of both types of stimulation creates a buildup that's more likely to trigger the release reflex than either one alone.
A curved vibrator like the Lovense Lush can help maintain consistent pressure on your urethral sponge while you use your hands elsewhere. Position it so the curved end presses into your front wall, then use steady vibration rather than patterns. The constant stimulation helps build the pressure you need.
Listen to your body
Stop if you feel pain rather than pressure, or if you get a burning sensation. Some women naturally produce more fluid than others, so don't worry if your experience looks different from what you see in porn.
Step-by-stepPractical Instructions
Set up your space
Put down towels and empty your bladder 20-30 minutes before starting. Get comfortable in a position where you can easily reach your vagina with one hand while using the other for clitoral stimulation. Lying on your back with knees bent works well for most women.
Build arousal first
Spend 10-15 minutes on foreplay with yourself. Focus on your clit, nipples, or other sensitive areas before moving to internal stimulation. Your urethral sponge needs to be swollen with arousal to respond properly, so don't rush this step.
Locate your urethral sponge
Insert one or two fingers and curve them toward your belly button. Feel for a slightly ridged or bumpy area about 1-3 inches inside on your front vaginal wall. Press gently and notice if the texture feels different from the smoother areas around it.
Apply firm pressure
Press directly into the spongy area with steady pressure, not light touches. Hold for 3-5 seconds, release, then repeat. Gradually increase the pressure with each repetition. You should start to feel a 'need to pee' sensation as you find the right spot and pressure.
Add clitoral stimulation
Use your other hand or a toy on your clit while maintaining the internal pressure. The combination of both types of stimulation helps trigger the release reflex. Keep the internal pressure consistent rather than trying to coordinate different rhythms.
Push out when pressure builds
When you feel the strongest urge to pee, resist the instinct to clench your pelvic floor. Instead, relax completely and push out gently as if you were urinating. This allows the fluid to release instead of being held back by muscle tension.
Avoid theseCommon Mistakes
Not getting aroused enough first
Your urethral sponge won't swell properly and will be less responsive to pressure
Using too light pressure
Light touches don't compress the urethral sponge enough to trigger fluid release
Clenching when you feel pressure
Muscle tension blocks the fluid from releasing even when everything else is right
Changing technique too quickly
You need consistent stimulation to build the pressure required for squirting
"Female ejaculation involves the release of fluid from the paraurethral glands through the urethra during sexual arousal or orgasm."
Research confirming the anatomical basis of squirting
FAQFrequently Asked Questions
Further ReadingRecommended Books
- Come As You Are — Emily Nagoski The science of female sexuality
- She Comes First — Ian Kerner A guide to clitoral stimulation
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